What to Do When Your Family Doesn’t Support Your Elopement

Apr 16

Deciding to elope can be as exhilarating as it is daunting, especially when your family isn’t on board. At Modern Elopement, we believe that your wedding day should be a reflection of your love and your dreams, not anyone else’s expectations. But we also understand the value of family, and that’s why we’re all about crafting solutions that celebrate every kind of love story. Get all of our tips and tricks here.

Understand Their Concerns

First things first, try to understand where your family is coming from. Often, their resistance stems from a place of love and a desire to be involved in your big day. They might feel left out or worry that they are losing a key experience with you. Acknowledging their feelings without compromising your own desires is a delicate dance but a necessary one.

Communicate Your Why

Share your reasons for choosing to elope. Whether it’s the appeal of an intimate ceremony, the desire to reduce stress, or the financial benefits, explaining your "why" can help them see the beauty in your choice. Remember, this is about you and your partner, and the commitment you are making to each other.

Plan a Happily Ever After Party

Here’s where we get creative! Just because you’re eloping doesn’t mean there can’t be a celebration with family and friends. The "Happily Ever After" Party is your canvas to paint whatever kind of post-wedding celebration you want. Whether it’s a casual backyard barbecue, a formal dinner, or a vow renewal ceremony with everyone present, it allows your family to feel included and celebrate your union.

Personalize the Celebration

Make this party uniquely yours. You can share photos or videos from your elopement, incorporate elements from your actual wedding day, or plan activities that reflect your journey as a couple. This isn’t just a party; it’s an extension of your wedding story.

Focus on the Positives

Highlight the positives of this approach. Not only does it allow you to honor your wish for an intimate ceremony, but it also offers a wonderful opportunity to extend the celebration. This way, you get the best of both worlds—your perfect, intimate elopement and a joyous gathering with all your loved ones.

Involve Them in the Planning

If they’re up for it, involve your family in planning the Happily Ever After Party. This can give them a sense of participation and inclusion that they were initially missing. Their input can make the event more meaningful for everyone involved.

At Modern Elopement, we're champions of your happiness. We believe in weddings that break the mold, celebrations that defy expectations, and love that writes its own rules. If you’re dreaming of an elopement but worried about family backlash, let us help you navigate these waters. Because at the end of the day, every couple deserves a happily ever after, crafted on their own terms.

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Nicole Berriman

Nicole is the Lead Elopement Concierge at Modern Elopement, bringing her passion for crafting unforgettable experiences to every couple she works with. Since joining the team in 2018, she has helped hundreds of couples create their perfect wedding day, ensuring that each celebration is as magical as can be.

Her favorite island is Oahu and she finds inspiration in the island's majestic Ko'olau mountains. With a love for travel that has taken her to over 40 countries, she thrives in the great outdoors, particularly on sun-drenched beaches.